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If it turns out that a husband is, in fact, gay, the fallout can be difficult to deal with, particularly for the straight partner. Many women find it much harder to accept that their husband is leaving them for another man rather than for another woman. More straight-identifying men are admitting to having tried gay sex than ever before -- but who are they, exactly?. But toxic masculinity is not a uniquely heterosexual problem, and some straight women are or were married to very toxic gay men.

The comments from these straight spouses suggested that their.

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Would you consider him bisexual or gay? —Not-Quite-Lavender Marriage. I think your husband quite clearly considers himself gay, which is far more relevant to your marriage than my assessment of. We recently asked the gay members of the BuzzFeed Community to share their stories about coming out after they'd been in a heterosexual marriage.

Here are some of their stories: 1. "I grew up in. No one can quite prepare you for the experience of dating within the queer community. As you spend time online and out in the real world, you learn how to sift through guys who end up meeting your specific requirements.

Many gay men I know, including myself, have gotten their hearts broken at the hands of men married to women, with many swearing off this category altogether after having their hopes dashed over and over. I was rather bewildered when I found out, but also intrigued. This man has a wife, and together, they have a kid. Why dip your beak outside then? That is why men like me go for other men.

But thanks to the wonders of Truecaller and Facebook, I could track him down and see his wife plastered in all the display pictures. You gotta wonder though: How does he plan to hold on to a full-grown woman who is fully married to him, while also hoping to have a full-blown boyfriend by the side? How does it make sense? I have always felt bad for the wives. They usually have no idea that their partner is on dating apps, looking to have sex with other men, while sex between them might be almost non-existent.

And who is really to blame here? The men for succumbing to societal pressures and not daring to come out, irrespective of whether they happen to be gay or bi? We do have brave voices like Professor Pratulananda Das from Kolkata, who is opening up about his side of the story and how he came out to his sons. I have spoken to a lot of married queer men over the last few years and over the last few weeks.

In the first year of marriage, my wife and I used to enjoy sex, but then we grew apart. So much for happily ever after. Over time, several married men on dating apps have developed a thick shell. I lived in the closet from the age of 14 to 22 and that itself felt like so many deaths. I have no idea how they live their entire lifetimes in duality. If nothing else, they have superb self-control.

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