Gay men trans

My partner is a cis guy and I mostly identify as gay, and I have a whole bunch of transmasc friends who hook up/date cis gay guys. I found r/gaytransguys really helpful working through some of this stuff!. Trans men, like cisgender men, have diverse sexual orientations, with most identifying as heterosexual, but others as queer, pansexual, bisexual, or gay.

Many trans men have past connections with the lesbian community, often identifying as butch lesbian before recognizing their transgender identity. The people who feel this attraction to transgender people name their attraction in different ways. Cisgender men attracted to transgender women primarily identify as heterosexual and sometimes as bisexual, but rarely as homosexual, and may also regard their attraction as its own sexual orientation.

In the following blog, I will answer these questions and explore some of the common myths in gender identity and sexual attraction.

The people who feel this attraction

One of the most common myths is that the process of taking hormones changes a person’s sexual attraction. Regardless of being trans or cis, anyone can be attracted to lots of different people. For example, a transgender man (someone who lives as a man today) may be attracted to other men and identify as a gay man. He may be attracted to women and identify as a straight man.

Transgender is a term used to describe people whose gender identity differs from the sex they were assigned at birth. For some people, their gender identity does not fit neatly into those two choices. For transgender people, the sex they were assigned at birth and their own internal gender identity do not match. People in the transgender community may describe themselves using one or more of a wide variety of terms, including but not limited to transgender, transsexual, and non-binary.

Always use the term used by the person. So most transgender people seek to bring their bodies into alignment with their gender identity. This is called transition. As part of the transition process, many transgender people are prescribed hormones by their doctors to change their bodies. Some undergo surgeries as well. Transgender is an adjective and should never be used as a noun. The Q can also sometimes mean questioning.

Simply put: sexual orientation is about who you are attracted to and fall in love with; gender identity is about who you are. Like everyone else, transgender people have a sexual orientation. Transgender people may be straight, lesbian, gay, bisexual, or queer. For example, a person who transitions from male to female and is attracted solely to men would typically identify as a straight woman.

A person who transitions from female to male and is attracted solely to men would typically identify as a gay man. For some people their gender identity is the same as the sex they were assigned at birth cisgender and for some people their gender identity is different than the sex they were assigned at birth transgender. In recent years, the word non-binary has seen a surge in popularity.

As more people use the word non-binary to describe themselves, it has become its own umbrella term. Non-binary now means many different things to different people. Language is evolving in real time. The bottom line is: listen to how someone uses the word non-binary to describe themselves and try to understand how they are using it. Many of them will be telling you that they are a transgender person who is non-binary, while others will be using non-binary in a different way to describe their experience.

Regardless, simply accept that they know best how to describe themselves. For some transgender people, being associated with their birth name is a tremendous source of anxiety, or it is simply a part of their life they wish to leave behind. Respect the name a transgender person is currently using. Someone who knows the person well will probably use the correct pronoun. If you must ask which pronoun the person uses, start with your own.

What about you? If you accidentally use the wrong pronoun for someone, apologize quickly and sincerely, then move forward with intention. The bigger deal you make out of the situation, the more uncomfortable it is for everyone. Transgender people face staggering levels of poverty, discrimination, and violence.